Monday, December 01, 2014
Wednesday, September 17, 2014
bad behavior of professional athletets
Do they think that pro football players "suddenly" have anger issues?
Do they think that "suddenly" foot ball players show disrespect for women?
Are they NUTS?????
In community leagues, kids are taught to be aggressive. They are rewarded for it. And they are coddled so that if they do something wrong they aren't punished, but their behavior is "boys being boys" and swept under the run.
In high school the boys on the football team are BMOC. They are the jox. They are praised for their ability to be rough on the field, and so what if they treat girls like crap. Aren't they entitled to let off steam? Hey, they are the winners, right? Doesn't that give them some privledges? After all, the more aggressive they are the more college coaches with look at them and they can possibly get picked for a college team, and get a "free" education. So why tarnish and spoil their chances by making a big deal about a minor incident of bad behavior, no many how many they are or how often they are repeated. Just keep it quiet so their record stays clean. Right? What does it matter if girls get roughed up, or used, or mistreated. So the player gets a girl pregnant? Is that any reason to reprimand him?That has nothing to do with football. "The girl" knew what she was doing. If she didn't want to be pregnant she should have used protection. Or did she get pregnant to snag someone with a bright future?
In college, you know it's tough being on a varsity team. The "boys" work hard, they train hard. They are under a lot of pressure to perform, and they have ample opportunity to meet co-eds who find them successful and a status symbol. The boys are sought after companions.
And if they have a relationship that isn't "satisfactory" and the player gets a little crude, or verbally abusive? So what? The girls get used to being treated badly, they have had plenty of practice through high school, and if they didn't like it they can leave. Or can they? No football player likes being dumped, especially when it could be public knowledge. So if a girl is not cooperating it's ok to slap her around right? And if she doesn't "put out" it's not really rape, because after all they expect it, right?
So they are so good on the field that when they get out of college they are on a pro team. Now the real spotlight is on them. This is it. The NFL. The big time. And how do they feel? Invincible. Why should they feel any different when their whole life they have been getting away with bad behavior? Drinking, drugs, fights what they heck, it's just the way things are.
So what's the solution? suspend a team member for a few games when they do something wrong NOW? Why? When all of their lives they haven't been punished or taught how to behave they are suddenly held accountable for their actions?
If the NFL is serious about curbing bad behavior they should start when 8 years put on pads, helmets. Pop Warner teams should teach not only team spirit and sportsmanship, but civility and appropriate conduct ON and OFF the field. The NFL should make it clear that celebrating good games and good players is more important than rewarding bad behavior.
If colleges were serious about football they would NOT encourage bad behavior, and they would not promote recruiting of good players, but bad men.
If high schools were serious about football they would reinforce what is taught to the boys about teamwork, sportsmanship and school pride and encourage their team too NOT bring shame to their high school by exhibiting bad behavior off the field.
You don't need rage to be a good player. You don't need cursing, rape, drunkedness or drugs. You need a willingness to suceed, and a good heart.
If the NFL calls football "Amerioca's game", I feel sorry for America.
Saturday, August 30, 2014
it's been a while
Instead I've turned into one of those elderly folks who spend her time maintaining the house and her health. If I am not going to a physical therapist, or a doctor then I am taking an exercise class or doing pool exercises.
My health has become a real concern. I am diabetic and apparently I was doing enough physical activity while working to keep it pretty much in check. But not working I am less active and my sugar levels have shot up! So I am injecting insulin and takingmeds and now I have learned I REALLY need to exercise to keep it steady.
The worst part is that I'm taking so many medications it's keeping me poor. One new thing the Dr. from the Diabetes Research Institute gave me is an injectible, that costs $215!!! I guess I will have to give up eating or become a greeter at Walmart to be able to afford food and medicines. (Don't laugh, you'll find out when you're on a "fixed income".
When I am not doing those things I seem to have developed the need to nap. Honestly I thought it was a myth about needing to nap when you retired, but it's true. If I sit down for a few minutes I find myself nodding off. It's unsettling.
Well I do do some things. Just two weeks ago I went to Everglades National Park for a day trip. I go to a Seniors Center at a local park for some craft and exercise classes. Soon we'll take a trip to an Indian Reservation for an afternoon of gambling. I'll take my $20 and hope to play the slots and win a few thousand (ha ha.)
Well, maybe I just need to "schedule" my writing. Maybe once a week to get back in the swing. After all, elections are coming up and I am sure I'll find a lot to talk about.
Tuesday, October 01, 2013
What does the Tea Party think it's doing shutting down the government? Are they anarchists?
Obviously they are. They only care about their own agenda, and the Republicans who support them only care about the money they will be getting from the Tea Party organization. It seems that Republicans in the House of Represenatives are only worried about their own rear ends.
Maybe we should give emotional IQ tests to those who attempt to run for congress? Or should that be empathy IQ tests? We have to do something to make them understand that the Tea Party does not speak for everyone. How?
How? By voting AGAINST any one and every THING the Tea Party supports.
Let's not let a bunch of fanatics destroy our country.
Tuesday, June 25, 2013
Expect an eclectic and sporatic contribution. Policy, politics, family, serious fun comments. And expect nothing to be sacred.
Wednesday, September 12, 2012
Romney has only male children. Sure they go to foreign countries on the religious Mormon mission, but what do they do to support our country? Are any of them in the armed services? I don't think so, unless they've done so secretely.
Is war a good thing as long as our Republican candidates don't have to encourage their own sons and daughters to enlist to support it? Is war only theoretically good, as long as minorities do the fighting for "our" country, even if they are undocumented?
What do say to get those living below the poverty level to enlist? You offer them the opportunity, supposing they survive the war intact, to "save" for college.
Save for college. That's the new GI bill. Save.
My husband served in Viet Nam, 3 tours. His GI bill included free tuition for college or a trade school. FREE. He contributed nothing to get this benefit. But now, they have "improved" the benefit so that anyone who serves in the military can get "matching funds up to $20,000.00". Meaning, the soldier, sailor, marine, has to save the first $10,000.00 to be able to get another matching $10,000.
So, it's good for poor people to enlist so they can get a chance to get a college education. While Willard Romney's boys, who don't need that money because Daddy is rich enough to pay their tuition, don't have to even consider it.
How many other Republican politicians have children in the military? My guess is very few.
Monday, September 10, 2012
medicare/medicaid Ladies especially pay attention if you have parents in nursing homes.
My sister is now 58, and will be 59 in December.
She had a major stroke 2 years ago while working a job at Subway. Prior to that job she held 2 other low paying jobs, but prior to that she was a nurse for 18 years. She burned out. When she was nursing all of her medical problems were covered by insurance available at her workplace. But when you are working a minimum wage job there is no coverage.
So, my sister, who had several pre-existing conditions and was at a level below poverty level, got free medical check ups and medication at a reduced rate as long as she had an income below a cetrain level.
She got a raise at Subway. Which disqualified her for free medical check ups and medicine. Her barely above minimum wage job did not allow her to afford to go to a private doctor, paying full price, and buyng her blood pressure medications. Her blood pressure was always a problem - uncontrolled even with many, many medication changes.
She went to work one day in April 2010 and fell over. She was unresponsive, they called 911 and she was taken to the closest hospital.
She had been renting a room and living with a friend from her church , in Orlando, and I live in Miami. Our parents are dead, I am her only sibling.
I was called by her church members to be told she'd been taken to a certain hospital, and would probably need brain surgery because there seemed to be a clot in her brain.
I had to give doctors verbal permission by phone before I presented them with power of attorney which she had signed years before, to operate and put a shunt in her brain to drain blood which was accumulating and causing her to have trouble staying conscience and breathing.
Then my daugher and I drove to Orlando and spent time speaking to her doctors, nurses and social workers in the ICU.
Remember, my sister is totally uninsured.
So the good people at the hospital asked me to sign a paper for permission to treat her. Fortunately I had a councelor (a lawyer from work) who told me not to sign anything. Under the pretext of signing for permission to treat came an obligation - a financial obligation to pay her medical expenses as her next of kin. I refused. That didn't mean they wouldnt care for her, they had already spent 4 days treating her before I got there. The "government" was already paying for her care.
Why didn't I sign the paper? Because at the time her bill was already was over $90,000. To collect it the hospital, had I signed the paper for treatment, would have put a lein on my house and assets since my sister had none of her own.
After she was better, she was moved to a rehabilitation center where they worked on her to bring back some of her functions back. She regained speech, but she did not regain all of her memories. She also has lost the use of her left arm and hand, she can only use her left leg with a brace and she can walk using a hemi walker. She is incapable of taking care of her own needs.
After 6 weeks of rehabilitation she was sent to a nursing home where she has been for the last 18 months. She insists she will walk out of there and be capable of living on her own, in an independemn\nt living apartemnt, but after 2 years if she has not regained mobility by now it's unlikely. The best that may be for her woudl be assisted living, which she is resisting.
How does she live? She is living on the generosity of Social Security Disability and Medicaid.
Now, if Mr. Romney and Mr. Ryan have their way my sister will probably not qualify for Medicaid and since they want to change Social Security and make it more difficult to collect disability, what will happen to my sister?
Will the new Republican government and the changes to the medical care she now has, throw her out of the home by removing her eligibility? Will she no longer get help from Social Security (which she paid into for many years before she had to apply for the help provided)? If she needs to insure herself how can she? She had a major stroke. What insurance company, with a voucher, will take her on? How will she afford her medicine and medical visits? Will pre-existing conditions be covered? What care will she receive? Will I be expected, as her only relative, to bring her to my house and be her sole caregiver and financial support?
I am already 64, nearly ready to retire myself. My husband is a Vietnam Vet, who is suffering from PTSD. He is 100% disabled himself. My 40 year old daughter lives with us, because she fell on hard financial times and is just now pulling herself out of a hole. We are at an ok point here now, not great, we make ends meet but there is no big savings account to fall back on, and there are no "extra funds" to help support another person. There are some bad days. My husband couldn't tolerate another person in our home, I couldn't either. I had already had to go to a psychologist to deal with the many stresses in my life, I cannot mentally or monitarily afford to keep her.
With Obama care my sister will be cared for for the rest of her life, either under SS disability and medicaid, or under her social security retirement when she reaches retirement age, and medicare can be replacing medicaid.
So what do Romeny and Ryan offer instead? Have they been specific enough in their rhetoric?
I don't think so.
And that's why I will enourage anyone I know to vote against Romney. Because Obama care will continue my sister's care, but I have no idea if Romney will or not, and he isn't being very forthcoming in what he has to offer. One day he's for it, one day he's totaly against it. There is no rhyme or reason to his speeches, and no consistancy.
Right now it looks like under a Republican administration my sister, and many of the people now living in the nursing home with her, will be left with no support.
So what happens now?
What happens is I not only vote for Mr. Obama. I work to make sure he is reelected.